It's finally here, November - National Adoption Awareness Month!  Whoo Hoo! It is the perfect time to reflect on the ways adoption has blessed your life.  If you follow Choosing Destiny on Facebook you've heard me talk about Just BirthParents Radio.  Annette, a Birth Mother, hosts a radio show EVERY Monday morning Just for Birth Parents!  The best part is, you can listen anywhere you from your computer.  Her show takes place Mondays at 8:00 AM MST - listen here.

Since it's November, Annette is taking Love Never Ends dedications for the Birth Mother in your life.  Contact her through the JustBirthParents website to make your dedication and listen every Monday morning in November to listen for your dedication!! 

Thank you Annette for all that you do to spread your love for adoption!!  Birth Mothers everywhere admire your enthusiasm and genuine love for adoption and for others around you.  It is clear that you are passionate about sharing your knowledge and I love that!!  Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Remember that book Once Upon A Baby I told you about?  Oh of course you do (or you can read about it here).  Here is your chance to win a copy.  Yes, that's right - a giveaway!!  Here is the catch, it ends tomorrow.  Head on over to the Families Supporting Adoption Blog and enter.

Here's how to enter:
Leave a comment on the blog telling us how you read the FSA blog (Daily visitor? In a blog reader? Follow by email? Click through from Facebook posts? Twitter follower?).
Earn an additional entry by "liking" the Once Upon A Baby Facebook page (let us know in an additional comment here that you have done so).
Earn an additional entry by "liking" the FSA Facebook page (let us know in an additional comment here that you have done so).
Entries will be accepted through 10/17/12. The winner will be announced on 10/18/12.

Good luck!

Enter at
Did you know that November is National Adoption Awareness month?  It make sense, only great things happen in November like Thanksgiving and my birthday!  Blessings in A Basket is hosting two adoption walks during November, one in Mesa, Arizona and the other in Omaha, Nebraska.  This is a FREE family event focused on celebrating how adoption has Royally Blessed your life.  Wear purple for a chance to win door prizes from one of the many sponsors of the event.  Take it to the next level and get your Royally Blessed gear to wear to the walk. 

The walk in Mesa will be held on November 10th at 9:00 AM - Mountain View High School.
The walk in Omaha will be the following weekend, November 17th at 11:00 AM, Heartland of America Park.

Go ahead, print some flyers out below to give to your friends.  Help spread the word, share the event with your friends on Facebook.  Don't forget to click "I'm Attending" on the event link -  Mesa, Arizona and Omaha, Nebraska.
Quick shout out to all of those who are sponsoring this event.  Without you, none of this would be possible.  THANK YOU!!!
Photography by Life Captured by Sarah Bryan
The Localmotive Food Truck in Omaha
Pepper Ann's Locket
Made by Jewls
Phoenix Fire Department
Fresh and Easy

If you would like to be a sponsor, please contact Ashley Mitchell on the Blessings In A Basket site.

On the evening of the third Thursday each month something marvelous is happening.  Ashley Mitchell, founder of Blessings in a Basket and Big Tough Girl holds a Big Tough Girl support group for those of us who have placed.  I feel I'm at a loss for words to describe how wonderful of a feeling it is to talk with multiple other girls in similar situations as me.  After placement most Birth Parents feel alone, like we are the only ones who EVER placed their child for adoption - when that clearly just isn't the case.  Ashley has networked with girls from across the county "grafting lives together through our Birth Mom community."  It doesn't matter if you placed 3 weeks ago, or 30 years ago we all need to be remembered and have some support. 

This is from the Big Tough Girl website:

"What is BTG Support Group?
BTG Support groups are designed for birth moms to find healing and motivation, peace and support, and lasting friendships with birthmoms in their area and so much more...come in person once a month at a location near you or check in with us online.

Group is NOT just a place to talk about being a birth mom. If that is what you are going through and that is what you need...then I promise we will talk about it! But if you need to talk about something else...ANYTHING, relationships, sex, health and image, friends, kids, money...we are going to talk about it.
Our support groups are FREE and just for you."

At this moment there are locations in Colorado, Nebraska and Utah - If you don't live close to any of these places (like me) you can join in on Skype.  Get your butt on over to the Big Tough Girl blog and read all about it.

I got to attend group this past week and can I just say that you ladies are so...well - Tough! ;)  Glad to be apart of the BTG community and can't wait to see what the future holds.

One of my favorite things I heard Ashley say was to, "Put him in a black hole and LEAVE him there!" I literally laughed out loud when I heard her say this.  How many times do we decide someone is bad news for us and then keep taking them out of that "black hole"?  Which inspired this......
Ashley has more up her sleeve than just this BTG support group.  She also runs Blessings in a Basket.  More about that later.  Visit her in the meantime here:

If you are currently adopting and would like your profile featured, please contact me.  I'd love to have you join!
I knew it was going to be a great evening when I pulled into Barnes and Noble for the Once Upon A Baby book signing and Herby the Love Bug was there to greet me!  And then turned around and saw this AMAZING sunset...I could see balloons through the upstairs window from the parking lot. 
I can not begin the describe what a wonderful conversation Shari Guess and I had about the blessings of adoption.  She is such a wonderful woman with a gift for feeling the Spirit and knowing exactly what to say.  Her son Garrett is truly blessed to have a Birth Mother Susan who was able to choose the perfect family for Garrett to thrive and grow like she dreamed he would.  Ooooooo I love Shari Guess.  Can you tell?  =) 
I brought home two copies of Once Upon A Baby by Shari Guess, one for me and one to send to my Claire.  Shari was kind enough to sign both of our copies.  Once Upon A Baby is the first book of it's kind.  It speaks specifically about LDS adoptions.  There are spiritual and eternal reasons those in the LDS faith choose adoption, including so their child can be sealed for time and all eternity to their family.  Something a single person could not give to their child.  Hear me now: If you are LDS and you have adopted BUY THIS BOOK!!! Your child NEEDS to hear the message it teaches. It is amazing.  It talks about how much the Birth Mother prayed to find YOU, the right family.  Which is especially important to me.  When you order a copy, send one to your Birth Parents too.  I promise they will cherish the book just as much as your child will!!

Thank you Shari for taking time out of your busy evening to make time for ME! 

Visit Once Upon A Baby to purchase your own copy! 
Also Available at the the following retailers:,,
Provo, UT: BYU Bookstore
SLC, UT: Weller Book Works
Dallas, TX: Moon's LDS Books
Fort Collins, CO:  Moroni Books & Gifts
I just heard about the most marvelous book I just had to share with you.  It is an original piece written for children about adoptions finalized through The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
 "A heartwarming tale of LDS Adoption. Follow a child's journey from the Pre-existence to his family's home on Earth. The divine guidance of the Savior, along with the love and prayers of both birth and adoptive parents are gently and lovingly portrayed in this tender story of the ultimate "Happily ever after".
                                                                                                     - Once Upon A Baby

You can purchase your own copy HERE for only $14, and that includes shipping!  I can't wait to get my hands on a copy, and then send one to my Claire...and then put one in every Birth Mother Hug that gets sent out! :)

Here's a sneak peak inside.  Go to Once Upon A Baby to see more of the book.

Someone gave me the advice that making this website so close to when Claire was born was bad for me.  So I stopped updating this site, or helping any Birth Mothers out.  Looking back now, I really regret not continuing to keep up with things. 

I met the most amazing woman, Tracy on Saturday at a mutual friends daughter's birthday party.  (Wow, that's a mouth full!) We met reading the map outside the park looking for structure number nine and got along well at the party.  She told me about her cute little family, her two boys and little girl also that they were wanting their family to be a little bigger.  Tracy and her husband are trying to adopt! :) I almost squealed for joy I was so excited for her!!!  Here is yet another example of people sharing their experience of adoption with me, without knowing my history.  How wonderful.  Tracy and her family live in Missouri (so if you know of anyone looking for a forever family for their little one in Missouri...just saying). 

I haven't been able to get Tracy out of my head since we met.  On my drive home from the party I started to think about all the girls I've missed out helping being away from Choosing Destiny.  This made me very disappointed and sad.  That being said, I can not wait to sponsor a Birth Mother, hopefully one near me so I can meet her.  Know a Birth Mother?  Contact me so I can get in touch with her.  Thank you Tracy for planting that seed back in me so I can get back to this cause.

It seems like ever since I placed Claire with her forever family people flock to me to talk about their own adoption stories.  For example, I was at work a couple days ago and this woman tells me that she was adopted and that she recently found out that
her half brother has lived in the same town her whole life, and she didn't even know about him.  Why do these random people share their experiences with me when they don't know about Claire?  Whatever the reason is, I love it.  I love to hear other people's stories and experiences, so keep them coming! 

I have had such a great response so far.  I've only given the web address to 3 people and we had over a hundred hits on Wednesday!!  Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!  Now I just need to find out if I can accept donations without being a non-profit organization.  If you know about this, please contact me!  I want to be able to collect donations ASAP!! 
Here we are 5 months after Claire was born and I am finally starting this website!  I really hope that I can put into words what I want the whole world to know!!  I'm looking around at a lot of adoptive families profiles looking for people to feature on this site.  I hope I can get together a good group of them, and be able to put their profile out there for more prospective birth mothers to see.  I am really excited for all of this to happen.

I want to start a birth parent support group, and when we get enough people we can do a retreat every year!! 

Please contact me with any ideas or references that will help me out!  Thank you!


ps Thanks for stopping by!