How did you decide to start Choosing Destiny?
I heard about these Birth Parent Support Groups while I was pregnant that I could take part in after placing my daughter for adoption. I heard about how wonderful and what a great resource and source of strength they are for Birth Parents. The only problem was - after placement, there were no support groups, my case worker never called to check up on me, it felt like I had been forgotten so easily. After many sleepless nights of keeping myself up crying I knew I wanted something to change. I knew it wasn't fair (that after making such a life altering decision, a decision I had prayed about countless times and was tormented over the answer of placing her for adoption) that I felt forgotten. I'm not sure what I expected, but it wasn't being left out in the cold like this. I wanted to make sure that no Birth Mother ever feels forgotten. This is one daunting task! The day after being released from the hospital I was so angry, why didn't anyone tell me to buy breast pads even though you aren't breastfeeding? I went to the store and cried while I walked down the isle with all the baby items looking for breast pads. I knew now how I could help. I decided I wanted to help Birth Mothers realize they are important, love and not forgotten. I wanted to make sure that no Birth Mother leave the hospital empty handed. You can not imagine what an empty feeling it is leaving the hospital empty handed. Coming in with a baby, leaving with...nothing.
I heard about these Birth Parent Support Groups while I was pregnant that I could take part in after placing my daughter for adoption. I heard about how wonderful and what a great resource and source of strength they are for Birth Parents. The only problem was - after placement, there were no support groups, my case worker never called to check up on me, it felt like I had been forgotten so easily. After many sleepless nights of keeping myself up crying I knew I wanted something to change. I knew it wasn't fair (that after making such a life altering decision, a decision I had prayed about countless times and was tormented over the answer of placing her for adoption) that I felt forgotten. I'm not sure what I expected, but it wasn't being left out in the cold like this. I wanted to make sure that no Birth Mother ever feels forgotten. This is one daunting task! The day after being released from the hospital I was so angry, why didn't anyone tell me to buy breast pads even though you aren't breastfeeding? I went to the store and cried while I walked down the isle with all the baby items looking for breast pads. I knew now how I could help. I decided I wanted to help Birth Mothers realize they are important, love and not forgotten. I wanted to make sure that no Birth Mother leave the hospital empty handed. You can not imagine what an empty feeling it is leaving the hospital empty handed. Coming in with a baby, leaving with...nothing.